Women, Men Do The Pursuing

Many women’s magazines teach that if a woman wants a man she should go get him.  But in the Bible we see a different pattern.  I cannot find one single example of women taking men as husbands in scripture.  Nor can I find a single example of men being given as husbands to women.

Call me crazy, but I do not believe in pursuing guys. Does it sound like I’ve lost touch with reality? Trust me, this has—and continues to—require a huge amount of faith on my part. It’s not natural to me. But, after a whole lot of heartache doing things my way, I have slowly—very slowly—begun to give God control of my love life. And today and tomorrow, I want to tell you why. Are you ready for this??

 
1. It’s not the way. Just as God wired us women to want to be pursued, God wired men to want to pursue!

Isn’t that great? God’s way is beautiful. Take figure skating as an example:
“[The man] leads [the woman] onto the ice and initiates each part of their routine. She receives that leadership and trusts in his strength. His raw, physical strength is more on display than hers; he does all the lifting, twirling, and catching. She complements his strength with her own—a more diminutive and more attractive strength of beauty, grace, speed, and balance. His focus as the head, or leader, is to magnifying her skills. Her focus is on following his lead and signaling her readiness to receive his next move. He takes responsibility for the two of them, and she trusts his leadership and delights in it” (John Ensor, Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart).

I may not know you personally, single woman, but still, I know you. Deep down, you don’t want to romance a man. You want a man to romance you! You want to be swept off your feet. So, do it! Sit back, relax, and wait to be pursued, wooed, and won!

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tgn_LVYLy-Y

 

2. I’m not actually waiting on a man to pursue me, I’m waiting on God.

Whenever you’re feeling frustrated over how long it is taking a guy to notice and pursue you, remember that God is in control of timing, of this guy’s heart, of everything:

Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” (Notice that because of God’s favor, the man finds the woman, and not the other way around.)

Similarly, Proverbs 19:14 tells us “House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.”
“The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; he turns it wherever he will” (Prov. 21:1).

 

If the Lord can move the heart of the most powerful man in the land, he can turn any man’s heart!

Women, Men Do The Pursuing